RESPONSE TO SHAINA week 6

Shaina,

Some women are just not at a point in their lives where they have the luxury of being able to work at home, or take off from work to spend time with their children. I have been very lucky when it comes to the amount of time I get to spend with my mother. My father owns a company, and my mother works for the company from home, so growing up my mother was basically always around when I needed her. I realize this isn't the norm, and to be honest, that scares me. Because that is the way I grew up, and I loved it, I am terrified that one day (not for a little while!) when I finally have children of my own, I won't be there for them when they need me. I need to realize that my home situation was not the norm, and that a child is capable of being perfectly fine without having their mother at their beckoned call.
This does not by any means, mean that these mothers who aren't able to spend as much time with their children, should be considered cold, or not dedicated. However maybe it's true. Maybe they aren't good mothers, and just don't care enough to make adequate time for their children. Unfortunately sometimes, that is the case. But then again maybe it's not. Maybe these women care SO much about their children, that they word extra hard now, in order to make money to ensure their child a better future.
Either way, people really need to learn all the facts before they start opening their mouths!

Week #6- Eureka moment

Over the weekend, I had explained my Wiki page to my parents. So yesterday, my mom called me in because she was watching the Today show, and they had started a segment which related to my Wiki page. (She didn't know the deadline had already passed) Regardless, as we watched the segment, we found out it was less about dating, and more about marriage, so it wouldn't have really helped anyway. But the segment still got me thinking. It was about the sanctity of marriage, and how people take it for granted. These days, marriage isn't taken as seriously as it should be. People can go to Vegas, get drunk in a casino, and wake up in the morning next to a complete stranger, who now (thanks to the little chapel in the hotel, and the priest dressed as Elvis) is now their lawfully wedded wife. Celebrity's marriages are often unable to even withstand a whole year before ending in divorce. So why is it that a man and a woman who are not actually in love, and do not stand a chance of lasting, are able to take such advantage of something as sacred as marriage, just because they are "man and woman," when a man and another man who are actually deeply in love and will truly stay together "till death do them part" are unable to have the same advantages. It just doesn't seem fair to me.

RESPONSE TO MARIA week 4

Maria,

I really enjoyed this post because it is something that I deal with on a day to day basis. While I do not completely hate my body, I definitely do have my insecurities. I try my best to not let it show that I am insecure, but sometimes I find that it is very hard not to. While women like to think that all men are like your friend, and only have a strong physical attraction to super models, it is not necessarily true. Yes, that may be his particular type of woman, but women come in all different shapes and sizes, and so do men's opinions of what they find attractive in a woman. However, no matter what a man tells you about your body, whether it is good things or bad, it doesn't matter until you are comfortable with yourself. My boyfriend tells me everyday that I am perfect the way that I am, but there are parts of me that I would like to work on, in order to feel more comfortable about myself. I admire you for being more concerned with the happiness of your state of your mind and soul, rather than with your appearance, but I understand the difficulty that comes along with doing so. Media has made it very hard for women to accept themselves the way they are. We just need to get past our insecurities, and understand that media's representations are false, and we are real, and that is beautiful!

RESPONSE TO CHRIS week 5

Chris,

That movie was absolutely great, and the main focus of my Wiki page. I love the fact that you said, men don't play games. In a way, they do, by saying things like, I'll call you, when they know deep down they have no intention of calling you, but that is where the game ends. Women, however, will let this go on for weeks, stating that the man is messing with them, when in reality, he ended it a long time ago, she just never got the memo. As the movie says, if he is interested, he will call. That's it. Regardless, I am still a girl, and if I was single and meeting guys at the moment, I would still be doing the whole. AHHH WHY HASN"T HE CALLED ME YET thing. I know better, but that is the way it will always be. Women will almost always believe that they are the exception, rather than the rule.

RESPONSE TO ASHLEY week 5

Ashley,

Being that I was raised with all boys, I find that alot of the time, I like to try and be tougher than I actually am. I used to work in a gym at the cafe, and when we got shipments in I would try and show off and take care of it all by myself. Truth is, while most of the stuff was liftable, there were some things that no matter how hard I tried, I was just unable to lift and would have to ask one of the personal trainers for help. Typically guys are stronger than girls, that is just the way we are built, however there ARE exceptions.

I agree with you. I think that as long as you are capable and willing to do the work, then go for it! Ask one of the guys to switch for the day and see what happens!

Week #5- Eureka moment

My Eureka moment actually came to me while reading Christopher's post to this weeks discussion board topic. In his response, he mentioned the topic of child custody. He discussed how in the majority of situation's, the court will favor the mother, rather than the father in a custody battle. In the text, Woods states that to be feminine, is to be physically attractive, deferential, emotionally expressive, nurturing, and concerned with people and relationships (Wood 24). The key word in this sentence for purpose of my eureka moment, being nurturing. As I explained in my response to Christopher's post, I have realized that the term nurturing does not necessarily always apply. The point I am trying to make is that I agree that men are just as capable of taking care of children. The reason I have chosen this as my eureka moment is that recently my uncle divorced his wife, and took custody of all four of his kids. My aunt, was never a good mother for her kids. She doesn't have that sense of nurturing that all women are supposedly supposed to have. My uncle is a far better provider and parent for my cousins than she could ever be.

Week #4- Eureka moment

I have recently enrolled in a SCUBA certification class. My first class started on Monday evening. As we did the pool section of the class, one of my fellow classmates, a girl, stated that the water was a little cold and she was beginning to shiver. Our instructor, an older man in about his 60s, overhearing the girl's complaints, yelled out, "Do I hear complaining?" The girl then stated that she wasn't complaining, just stating that it was cold. Our instructor then went on to say "I hate whining, but if there's one thing I can't stand it's when men whine. It seems these days men whine more than women do.." This is where I saw a great opportunity and decided to take it.. I then asked "Why do you think that is? That more men complain now in days, than they used to?" My instructor went on to mumble something sarcastically about today's "Manly men" who aren't manly at all, but are told by society that it's "okay to cry" so they choose to do it at every possible opportunity. I thought his response was really interesting, and rather funny. I agree with him though. Now that society is accepting males to sometimes have more feminine aspects, such as sensitivity, many men are taking advantage of their ability to do so. I don't feel their is anything wrong with that at all. I just thought it was interesting to hear an older man's thoughts on the subject!